Stop being defensive with these 3 words

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Think about the last time you were really upset and defensive about something at work that clearly was not right. We’ve all had these moments. They also tend to be when we are not at our best.

I’ve yet to see anyone show up as their best when they are feeling defensive. In sports, the defensive players are there to stop the opposing team. The same thing happens at work. When we’re defensive, we’re no longer working as a team and trying to reach the end goal together. Are a just made and feeling very justified in feeling that way.

But the thing is, there’s not upside to being defensive at work. It just slows you down. It slows down your listening abilities. It slows down creative ideas to solve the issue. And it slows down your growth as a leader.

In this episode you are going to learn the 3-word phrase to stop getting defensive. Every time you say it, it opens up the issue and helps to quickly find a solution. Not saying it just makes your work unnecessarily harder. Listen and learn what this powerful 3-word phrase is.


What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • Why we all get defensive
  • Why it can sometimes be a problem for us at work
  • The most powerful 3-word phrase that shuts down feeling defensive
  • How to apply it in real life

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